|The Canadian Press/Michael Hudson|
Like many at the time, I'd become quite pissed at the police for various injustices and stupidities.
I'm generally torn in my feelings toward the police: while I respect professionals who aim to serve their communities with respect and fairness for all and I admire those among us who dutifully run towards danger in times of emergency, I still generally don't like or understand police officers much.
Altruism isn't what primarily inspires most careers in law enforcement; instead, it's usually more the desire to wield power over the rest of us. I generally see the police as agents of the state who simply act to protect and fortify the establishment no matter how immoral or even evil it might be. I'll never understand how anyone can unconditionally align themselves with the powers-that-be like that.
In recent years, it's my opinion that police forces in North America have become more brutish, not less. The brutality thrust upon people of colour communities by police throughout history has been horrific and those horrors continue today.
We in Toronto remember well the G20 police clashes with protesters in 2010 - when many undercover officers took advantage of the opportunity to flex their muscles and abuse the rights of innocent protesters - showed us what's in their hearts. It wasn't pretty.
Police organizations across North America are turning themselves into highly weaponized armies and the demands for more budget funding seem endless. Toronto's police force alone costs about $1 billion per year.
For decades, the police were no friends of the LGBTQ community. Back when homophobia ruled mainstream culture in North America, the police would routinely harass and make life hell for us. And many believe the cops have yet to truly atone for those abuses - I'm one of them.
In 2016, Black Lives Matter held up the Toronto Pride parade and demanded that the police be banned from future Prides. Months later, mostly white members of Pride Toronto voted to support that ban.
There's no doubt the ban has divided the LGBTQ community. Some passionately opposed it, saying it was wrong to ban an entire profession of people. Others, like myself, accepted it. But regardless, a message of defiance has been sent to the police and the establishment.
Since then, the police have still provided needed security at Toronto Pride. Some sponsorships and donations have been lost. And there's no doubt the ban has strained relations between the LGBTQ community and the police.
But as time goes on, an indefinite ban seems simply wrong. I'd say our community has made its collective point. The police aren't some monolithic force like the Borg. They're made up of individual human beings, all of whom have the capacity to grow and learn from past mistakes. They ought to be decent public servants. Continuing to hold all police officers accountable for the acts of some seems unfair, especially from a community that has also felt the sting of prejudice.
We are never going to get anywhere if we continually dwell on the injustices of the past.
If the police still need to atone for past indignities and make peace with the LGBTQ community, how can banning them and shutting down discussion make that happen? It can't.
Regardless of the insider reasons that may have contributed to the decision, I think Pride Toronto made the right move announcing this week the ban is done.
The reactions we're seeing now from some expressing venomous hatred for all police officers simply reinforces my own concerns about the initial sentiments that led to the ban in the first place. Many ban proponents strike me as being perpetually locked into their ideology of distrust and opposition. To them, the ban was a victory, an end in itself. How long was it supposed to last? Indefinitely, it seems.
These harsh messages of punishing the police or exacting revenge upon them forever were never going to improve LGBTQ-police relations. They weren't designed to.
There will always be those who can't forgive, reinforced by their ideological prejudices. Are all police bullies like the boy who used to abuse this writer? Too many are, but not all.
A never-ending ban on police is no way forward, in my opinion. I've gone along with it these past two years, but I say it's now time to move on. I'm not interested in being a part of a never-ending ideological stand-off.
We should be willing to forgive and to be the better human beings here, even if the police as an institution have yet to fully atone for their past transgressions against us.